Handle with care

My new mother-in-law to be decided to go to the local library, where she checked out a copy of my book, WIVES AND SISTERS. And after reading just a bit, promptly returned it.

Still not sure if she’s coming to the wedding….

I love this culture.


About Natalie R. Collins

Natalie has more than 30 years writing, editing, proofreading and design experience. She has written 20 books (and counting), has worked for the Sundance Film Festival, and as an investigative journalist, editor, and proofreader. She embraces her gypsy-heart and is following her new free-thinking journey through life. Follow her as she starts over and learns a bunch of life's lessons--some the hard way.
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14 Responses to Handle with care

  1. Melissa says:

    I would love to read it. Now, I just need to make the time…maybe after the busy season is over. Good luck with the MIL…at least she knows where you stand. 🙂


  2. Donna says:

    I hope they have it in downloadable form from the library since that is how I read my books now.

    Yikes, kind of reminds me of my parents treating my husband like total shit because he wasn’t a member of the church. Good luck trying not to just tear her head off whenver you see her.


  3. Kirk says:

    Dearest Natalie:

    Been awhile since I posted. My sincerest best wishes for you in this fantastic new adventure together with Birdman, Natalie.

    I know that you’ll float about the fray – as you usually do. Don’t let religious pressures influence one moment of your life together. I realize that this might sound a bit harsh, but you need to treat religion and it’s adherents as children. Truly we are all naïve and innocent like children in one aspect or another, but religiously challenged people cannot and should not be taken too seriously. Bless their hearts anyway. They actually cannot help themselves.

    Patience Natalie, with your new mother-in-law. Life will teach her lessons. Thankfully, we don’t have to. And, we really don’t have to hang with those who annoy the hell out of us.

    Again, best of luck!!



  4. Amanda A says:

    I have this book on my shelf to read. What is wrong with it that would make someone put it up so quickly? lol


  5. Jenn says:

    I’m actually impressed that Utah has it at the library. Things must be coming along there if they are allowing such books thesedays.

    Good luck with the MIL.


  6. K*tty says:

    Hey, I loved this book. A little advice. You will never get her approval until you go back to church. But you WILL be able to co-exist. She will just feel sorry for you and there’s no way to get around that. I really can’t believe that she would not put the effort in and read the whole book. After all, you are marrying her son. Where is her sense of adventure? No answer is needed. My previous wards are full of women just like her.


  7. JulieAnn says:

    ummmmmm….ouch…..yikes. I feel your pain.


  8. Nate says:

    Hey Natalie, it’s been a while since I visited, and even though I don’t agree with most of what you post, it’s fun to come back and browse every once in a while.
    So something happened to me a little while ago that was interesting. I wrote a post on my blog and then an atheist guy commented. He said that he respected what I wrote and that if more Christians thought as I did, he would respect them more. My first thought was that I couldn’t possibly be the only Christian who thought that way. That got me thinking.
    What if both our dissenting viewpoints are just proof of confirmation bias on both ends? I mean, experience and then validation are just as powerful whether our experiences are negative or positive, right? I’m beginning to think that what’s important is how well we recognize it in ourselves, because the result of that recognition would have to be a greater understanding of the the other side. What thinks you?


  9. Birdman says:

    Nate, you may be on to something there. Since personal experience shapes our bias and our belief system, it often takes something traumatic to make us see outside the paradigm.


  10. Birdman says:

    Natalie and readers, Natalie is about to gain a wonderful mother-in-law, her belief may not be the one that Natalie and I share, but she is accepting for the most part. She is happy and content in her cocoon of religious dogma. She needs that in her life to retain her sanity and self image. On the other hand, we need to applaud her for putting the book up when it challenged her belief system and made her uncomfortable…she did not attack or condem, she merely realized it was not for her. Her religion is not for us, but I don’t attempt to sway her from her faith and desire…as long as she allows us the same latitude.
    To re-phrase an earlier response; her TRUTH is not our TRUTH and nothing says either one is THE TRUTH…
    As my brother is fond of saying “don’t fuck with MY reality”


  11. JulieAnn says:

    Nicely said, Birdman, nicely said.


  12. Birdman says:

    Thanks JA great compliment coming from you!


  13. Natalie says:

    Hey, Donna, I know it’s on Kindle!


  14. Natalie says:

    Dear Birdman,

    Your mother is lovely. And I understand it’s hard to be BLOGGED about. And I should have been more explanatory and said it the way you told it to me:

    She didn’t want it to AFFECT her opinion of me, or how she looked at me, so she chose not to read it. Let’s face it. Most people don’t KNOW the people whose books they read. Dean Koontz and I don’t do coffee and talk dogs. (His last book is, uh, regrettable.) Reading something from someone you KNOW and have to see on a daily basis is really not common. Except for us writers who are midlist. We all know each other. Oh, and I know Jeffrey Deaver, and Allison Brennan and a few other New York Times bestselling authors.

    But for the average reader, you read a book and you don’t KNOW the author. It makes it personal if you read it.

    I’m very happy to be getting my MIL.


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